Friday, October 30, 2009

Flashbacks

Tomorrow it will be a year since I got prego!! WOW, time flies and there is no slowing down…I feel like it was just a couple months ago that we were gathered around opening Christmas presents..this Christmas we will be helping our little 5 month old open presents…tear! This past year has definitely been a crazy one yet the best year ever! We got to welcome our sweet little girl into the world. As funny as this is and Tanner looooves making fun of me for it there are a few things about the Winter I am NOT looking forward too that most people do look forward too. Warm clothes, jackets, heater, all the food we will be eating, considering I am still battling the last few pregnancy pounds, and just the thought of Christmas time makes me nauseated because during the winter last year I was in the beginning of my pregnancy and not feeling so hot. So now I have flashbacks of that…is that weird? Am I the only one that does that? Tanner had bought me some new perfume last Christmas and a year later I still CAN’T wear it, uggghhh it makes me sick thinking about it! All the clothes I wore during that time, nope can’t do it! I want to seriously take the heater out of our house too…Tanner loves it so we usually battle it out, secretly of course ;-) When he isn’t looking I will shut it off and I know he turns it back on when I am not looking.HA! But the Holiday’s are here and I want to make them very memorable being they are Parker’s Firsts!!

1st Halloween!

This year is Parker’s 1st Halloween! I have been so excited about dressing her up that I started looking for costumes as soon as she was born (and because I had 8 weeks off with a sleeeeeping baby so I had a lot of free time). All the costumes I found were for baby’s 6 months and up so it took a lot of looking and I finally found…..the little Pink Monster ;-) She was the cutest monster I have ever seen!





Every year my work puts on an adult Halloween costume contest & pizza lunch and then later in the day we get to bring our kids up and they go around to all the offices and trick or treat. I loved seeing all the precious kiddos in their fun outfits! I dressed up as a “cereal killer” for the adult contest and actually won the contest! I also enjoyed watching a lot of the little kids get really spooked by the grim reaper, I know that sounds bad, but it was rather amusing. I guess it won’t be so amusing when Parker actually realizes that’s scary! Parker made it about 20 minutes and then passed smooth out in my arms. I wish her daddy could have seen her all dressed up, though we sent pictures! He comes home tomorrow so we will dress her up again for all the fun events :)



HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

My Loves!


Saturday, October 24, 2009

All about me!

I got this from a friends Blog & enjoyed reading hers so I thought I would do one as well. Thanks Sommer!

I AM...a new Mommy!

I WANT...to teach my sweet baby girl all about our loving Father

I HAVE...the perfect job

I KEEP...any bag from any gift I receive, I have a huge container of them

I WISH I COULD...COOK

I FEAR...something bad happening to my precious family

I HEAR...Ice Age 2, we love Sid :)

I DON"T THINK... I will ever like to work out

I REGRET... not doing better in school

I LOVE...snuggling up with Parker

I AM NOT...good with money

I DANCE...all the time, even in the car

I SING...a lot except when I pull up next to another car ;)

I NEVER...want to stop learning about GOD

I CRY WHEN I WATCH...sad movies, the Notebook gets me every time

I AM NOT ALWAYS...nice, something I def need to work on

I HATE THAT....our world is getting ScArY

I'M CONFUSED ABOUT...what direction God is moving us in

I NEED...a new iron

I SHOULD...be doing this exact thing! Baby is napping, laundry & cleaning is all done. Birthday party in a few minutes!

Friday, October 23, 2009

For Sale!

So we have finally decided to put our house up for sale again! We put it up for sale back in February but after a few months we decided to take it off since Parker would be born soon and I didn’t want to deal with having to get a newborn out every time someone wanted to look at the house. After a few days of going back & forth we put it up for sale yesterday. Surprisingly we already had someone come look at it yesterday evening, we haven’t heard back from our Realtor yet on what they thought about it. Tanner & I love this house; we have been in love with it since we saw it for the first time (crazy paint and all). We have put in so much time, money & love that we finally made it into our home. But you gotta do what you gotta do and we shall find out soon (hopefully) if we are supposed to be there or if God has other plans for us ;)


Check out the house….tell your friends to BUY IT!
http://www.homeswesttexas.com/property.php?id=80180

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Kids who trick their parents...Parenting with Love & Logic

Some kids trick us into thinking that poor parenting practices work. These sweet, docile youngsters almost always behave, even when we've fallen into habits such as lecturing, threatening or rescuing. Before long…if we're unfortunate not to have another child who is strong-willed…we begin to believe that all is right with the world.

Or is it?

Some children come out of the womb holding doves. Nobody really knows for certain why, but these kids are wired to please others. In fact, they even want to please us when our skills hit the skids.

Am I the only one whose skills ever go down hill?

Here's the problem:
Easy-going kids act out just as much as strong willed kids.
They just do it on the inside…or put it off until they're young adults.

In my work as a therapist, my office was filled with nice kids whose inner lives were in turmoil. Since they didn't want to offend their parents, they simply suffered with anxiety, self-doubt, and depression.
Our world is also filled with young adults who were so sweet as kids that they never learned to think for themselves. Oftentimes, these young people have mid-life crises at 20.

In Jim Fay's CD, Four Steps to Responsibility, he teaches a process for helping kids develop good thinking skills and self-esteem. Key to this process is encouraging them to make decisions, allowing them to make small mistakes and letting them see that they have what it takes to succeed.

If you can get your easy-going kids to make at least one small mistake this week, my mission in writing this tip has been accomplished.

Thanks for reading!
Dr. Charles Fay

Monday, October 19, 2009

Baby Dedication

Parker got dedicated at Mid-Cities yesterday! We were so excited for this day, to give our sweet baby girl back to our Father. Dedicating a child acknowledges God's sovereignty not only over our daughter, but also over us as parents. Everyone got to pray over her along with many other babies & children. It was such a special day that we will remember forever.

"Hear O Israel: The Lord our God is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on their children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." Deuteronomy 6:4-7

A few pics before we went to church!






Friday, October 16, 2009

Ready for Halloween!


Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Does your family suffer from Over Scheduling Disorder (OSD)??

For many families, parenting has become an F-4 tornado, characterized by a frenzied whirlwind of activity.


This is not good for kids…or anybody else!

Much of this chaos has evolved out of the misguided belief that children must be entertained or "stimulated" each and every millisecond of each and every day. While pop psychologists may think this is wise, the rest of us ought to know better. Kids who never have an opportunity to rest, relax and get a bit bored, come to believe that life and relationships should always be exciting and fun. They also miss opportunities to develop creativity and problem-solving skills.

If you answer "yes" to any of the following statements, you and your kids probably suffer from OSD:

• You're completely worn out from trying to help your kids participate in all of your activities
• Your kids appear anxious, irritable, stressed, exhausted or hyperactive
• Your kids don't have enough time to contribute to the family by doing their chores
• Your kids complain about being bored any time they aren't being entertained

Although there's no medicinal cure for OSD, we can protect our families by giving ourselves permission to say "no" to too many activities. My personal advice as someone who's experienced this debilitating disorder is to trust your gut.

If you have any sense that your kids are overscheduled, trust your intuition.

Also be prepared to repeat, "I love you too much to argue" when your kids complain about being bored. In our book Love and Logic Magic: When Kids Leave You Speechless, we give specific tips for kids who are going through withdrawal from the drug of over-activity.

Thanks for reading!
Dr. Charles Fay

3 Months Old

I can’t believe my sweet girl is 3 MONTHS old! Though it does feel like forever ago that I was holding her in my arms for the very first time.



Parker is getting BIG…she is a little chunk…I’m guessing she might be getting her momma’s metabolism, poor girl ;) We are having so much fun with her and get way excited to go pick her up every afternoon. Daycare is going great! She has been in daycare for a month now. I am really enjoying being back at work though I look at her pictures a million times a day because I miss her. The women that work there seem to really love our little Parker and take good care of her. She sleeps SO well at night that she hardly takes naps during the day. We pushed her bedtime routine up one hour since she doesn’t take good naps. So at 8pm we start our bath, then bottle and put her right to bed. She sleeps all through the night until we wake her up at 7 the next morning. For a couple weeks there she went back to waking up at 3 in the morning for a bottle but now she back to sleeping all the way through. I am sure it won’t stay like this though every night :) It’s kina nice getting up with her because it gives you some really good quiet alone time. Tanner & I switch every night who does what with her so it’s not the same thing over and over for us. Tanner & I call her Sugie (pronounced soogy)…it’s just one of those random nicknames that flies out of your mouth and you think where in the heck did that come from! Our dogs even have the crazy nicknames….

At 3 months she is….

- Still eating 5 oz every 3 hours, sometimes 6 & sometimes just 4. She gets 6 bottles in 24 hours
- Holds her head up very well, but can’t quite sit up for long periods in the bumbo without her head drooping
- Can follow you from one side of the room to another with her eyes
- Outgrowing some of her 0-3 month clothes but can still fit into a lot of them perfectly.
- Fascinated by the TV, not sure if this is a good thing or bad. We can put her in her bouncy seat in front of the TV and not hear a peep for a loooong time.
- She really doesn’t use the swing as much anymore, this used to be her favorite thing.
- Talks to mommy & daddy all the time and can get pretty loud!
- Smiles every time she sees one of us, probably the best feeling in the whole world!
- We tried cereal in a bottle a couple of times but figured we would just wait until we can feed it to her with a spoon.

Everyday we just love her more & more. She is such a good baby, I really think we got spoiled with her and will totally have our hands full with our next couple. So we are very grateful for her easiness. We go back in one month for her 4 month check-up and more shots :(

Angel of God, my Guardian dear,
To whom God's love commits me here;
Ever this day, be at my side
To light and guard
To rule and guide.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Colossians 3:14-17

But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. Colossians 3:14-17

So thankful for a loving husband & father to our sweet baby girl

Monday, October 12, 2009

Cold & Busy Weekend!

We had a wonderful fun-filled weekend!! Friday night we spent the evening at our friends Ashley & Clay Lambs house. There were a few other couples that came and Ashley cooked us some yummy lasagna & Allison brought the BEST dessert (Allison – I actually looked for it yesterday at Wal-Mart & couldn’t find it…sad). We ate, talked and then played CATCH PHRASE! So much fun, especially the things that fly out of your mouth in a hurry. Boys beat us bad though…

Worn out from Clay & Ashley's

Saturday Tanner & I went to the AIRSHO. I had never been before & loved it…especially being right there in the middle of it. A friend of ours kept Miss P for us, it would have been way to chilly for her & very loud!
My favorite!
That night I went to my niece’s football (cheerleading) game and stayed a whopping 20 minutes…I froze my butt off! Hello Fall/Winter…how I have missed you :)

Sunday we had a baby dedication class for Parker, had lunch, snuggled on the couch, went crafts shopping, made hairbows for a friend at work, snuggled some more on the couch, cooked dinner, very weird for me to say, watched Army Wives & then finally went to bed…Busy day to end our Busy weekend!

For any of you that watch Army Wives....I can't believe they are going to make us wait so long to find out what happens...I was loving every second of the show last night and even teared up at the end. Such a good show!

Friday, October 9, 2009

Future Longhorn??

This is the 2nd time we have taken a picture and noticed the longhorn sign...just maybe a future Longhorn!


Thursday, October 8, 2009

The C.O.O.L. Formula

Wow! This Parenting with Love & Logic is such an awesome class! I have learned things in the past 2 weeks, things that I would have never thought of when it came to parenting. Things that I thought would have a negative affect rather than a positive.
Last night we discussed the C.O.O.L. formula. Dr. Jim Fay created this formula to help parents remember the basic concepts of raising responsible children. This concept goes along with the 4 Steps of Responsiblity we learned last week.

4 Steps to Responsibility:
1. Give the child a task he/she can handle
2. Hope that she blows it
3. Let equal parts of empathy and consequence do the teaching
4. Give the same task again.

The C.O.O.L. Formula:
Control that shared - Parents need to determine who has control now so they can better understand how to give away some control to the kid
Ownership of the problem - Parents & Kids need to determine who owns the problem
Opportunity for thinking/decison making - Kids have a difficult time learning how to think when parents do all the thinking for them.
Let empathy and consequence do the teaching - When parents express their empathy before describing the consequence, the child is much more likely to remember the lesson and feel the parents love and undertsanding as well.

Love & Logic Parents allow kids to make many small choices
- They allow choices that do not affect the parents
- Parents make the decisions that affect the whole family

Examples:

Not: Get your coat on!
Try: Will you be wearing your coat to school or carrying it today?

Not: Drink our milk!
Try: Would you like juice or milk?
Would you like to drink your milk now or in 2 seconds?
Would you like to drink your milk in the red sippy cup or the blue sippy cup?

Not: Do your homework now!
Try: Feel free to join your friends after your homework is done.

These were some of the good key points that stuck out to me! Each week just gets better :)

Bumbo

We have almost mastered the Bumbo seat!
She will keep her head up really good for the first couple of minutes and then it gets lower and lower and lower (I guess it could be the weight of her bows lol).
Another week or so & I think she will have it down!


Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Love & Logic Week 2

I recieve weekly tips on Love & Logic Parenting. I included below this weeks tips. We go for our 2nd class tonight! I am very excited to see what we will learn :)
Positive Reinforcement: Examples and Cautions

If you've followed Love and Logic® for any period of time, you know how strongly we believe in holding youngsters accountable for their mistakes and misdeeds. As most of us have learned the hard way, the road to wisdom and responsibility is paved with plenty of small mistakes and their consequences. As we go about shaping the hearts and minds of our children, it's important to remember that this road is also paved with positives. While it's unrealistic…and not too healthy…to reward our kids every time they do something good, we're wise to remember the value of reinforcing good behavior and good deeds. The healthiest and most powerful types of reinforcement involve time and attention rather than stuff.
Examples include:

· Sitting on the floor with your toddler as you allow them to repeatedly destroy your tower of blocks

· Noticing something your teen has done well and patting them on the back

· Saying to your child, "It looks like you really worked hard on that. I bet you're proud of yourself."

· Playing catch

· Doing a puzzle together

· Etc.

As we provide reinforcement, it's wise to remember the following:

· Reinforcement is more powerful when it comes as a surprise to our kids.

· Reinforcement loses its power when our youngsters come to expect it.

· Rewards should not be given every time our kids do something good.

· When our kids beg for or demand rewards, they shouldn't get them.

· Avoid saying, "You are so smart." Focus on your child's hard work and perseverance.

· Your love should never be used as a reward or a consequence. Your children should have it all of the time.

The most successful parents always remember that it's their job to give their kids the most accurate taste of the real world as possible. This means that we help them understand that much of the time hard work and good deeds provide positive results. It also means helping them understand that we do these good things because they’re the right thing to do…rather than because we expect rewards for doing them.

Thanks for Reading!
Dr. Charles Fay

Monday, October 5, 2009

Weekend!



Tanner & his dad headed to LBK Friday afternoon to help his brother & sister in-law move from Lubbock to Tahoka. I stayed in Midland since I had Miss P and knew I would do nothing but be in everyone’s way while watching her. Tanner’s dad’s girlfriend gave me company so we had a little girl’s night. We went and ate at Olive Garden, had a glass of wine and then stayed up talking. That was the latest I have been up in along time...lol…so OLD!

Saturday morning we got up and went shopping! Parker has her 3 month pictures (is it already that time??) in a couple weeks so I have been trying too find some shoes to match her outfits. Her feet are sooo tiny…they barely fit in the size 0. But I did find a pair of shoes and Becky also bought some precious outfits for Parker :) We also met up with my mom at lunch for some yummy fajitas!!

There is an outfit that I had gotten from my friend Shelley, it was her little girl Madison’s dress, that Tanner loves but she hasn’t been able to wear it yet. Well I though it would be cute to put that on her for when he got home he would see her in it...but as soon as I put it on her I realized she had grown a lot and this would be the one and only time she could wear it..haha. They grow SO fast. It’s sad to think there are many dresses in her closet that she probably won’t ever get to wear. I just put onesies and pants on her for daycare.
Parker in her polo dress - Tanners favorite!

Sunday we went to church! We put Parker in the nursery this time…before we were just taking her with us but I never got to fully pay attention to the lesson. She did great at the nursery so we will continue doing that. We went to my dads for our weekly Sunday night dinner and now Tanner has the FLU. I just barely got my FLU shot this morning at work so hopefully I won’t get it and I can keep Parker from getting sick too!

I have also been making some small little Halloween bows. Here are a couple of them. I also makde some with some glittery spiders! They are not the best I know but I have fun making them!

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Priceless



Parenting with Love & Logic - Class 1


“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
(Proverbs 22:6)

http://loveandlogic.com

Tanner & I started a 7 week study last night at our church. It is called Parenting with Love & Logic. I had never heard of this before but it seems like it is a popular technique, especially in the school systems. Our first class was basically an introduction class but we did get into a little bit of detail. Parker is still very young but at least we are getting a head start though some of this teaching. I have the tendency to want to control every thing around me. I would rather do something myself and know it will get done right rather than letting someone else do it and trying to teach them. I see this a lot with my niece Lindsay. Anytime she stays with us or I am around her I want to do everything for her. Pick out her clothes, tell her when to get in the shower, pick up after her…though sometimes I need to reinforce when & what she does I still need to let her decide things on her own and do things for herself and let her learn from mistakes. This is something I REALLY need to work on. Babies start learning from us and imitating us at a very very young age so I guess we can’t be too early.

Something we learned about tonight that I would have done completely different without this class is to empathize with their emotions rather than tell them “I told you so” or scold them, like we all want to do sometimes. Let them make their own decisions and when they fail we should tell them “we are really sorry”(or something along those lines) with a sympathetic voice rather than a sarcastic one…there is a difference. They gave an example of a 4 year old boy who got an allowance every week (I think it was like a dollar). And before they would give the boy his allowance they would explain why and how much they were taking out for tithing and taxes. I was shocked that you could start teaching a kid this young about taxes, tithing or even giving them an allowance. The father took the boy to an air show and the boy wanted a toy airplane. He asked his dad if he could have it and the dad told him he had his own money. The dad knew the toy was junk and would break within a day but the dad didn’t warn him or tell him it wasn’t worth it…he just let the young boy decide on his own. The young boy bought the toy and within a couple of hours it broke! He started crying and went to his dad and the dad just empathized with him…saying “I am really sorry son” rather than “I told you it wasn’t worth it”.

I can’t wait to see what the other classes will teach! Plus we got to meet some other couples and hear their stories, flubs and successes!